Fights,Fights,Fights!

Anyone that has a sibling/s can not deny that you have fought with them at one time or another. I have an older sister (2 years apart) and growing up we had our fair share of fights and at times boy did they get ugly but we always got over it and quickly became playmates again. I also have a younger brother (5 years apart) and our fighting was a bit different. A little one sided if you will. I would beat him up make him cry and then tell him he could hang out with me so all was forgiven and forgotten and life went on.

What I learned about this sibling rivalry is that most of the time it ended with tears, "I'm telling mom" and mom yelling till we all were crying. Forgive me but I don't see where this would be fun.

The things that we would fight over were even better. Things like toys, clothes, phones, and rooms were always at the top of the list. I understand I am creating a not so nice image of multiple child homes but this is what it was like for me and my brother and sister growing up. Boy being an only child looks pretty darn good right now! No fights, no sharing, and you always get your way. Now that sounds like the sweet life or maybe not....

Having these "fights" taught me great lessons in life. They taught me about sharing, self-defence, respect, and most of all they taught me the meaning of teamwork. What I failed to mention was that when mom would finish the fight and make us all cry we would then come together in a united front to plead our case of why mom is a jerk and we should be allowed back outside to play usually with the "team" winning and being back outside playing. What a great feeling that was when we conquered the "boss"! It really gave you an I can accomplish anything kind of feeling which always feels great! In the end these "fights" did more good for me than harm. Can an only child learn all of these things without having a sibling to fight with? I just don't know

After all is fighting really that bad to live with?

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Big Familes

I can list pages and pages of what I think the pros and cons are to having a big family but I don't see the point. Being raised in a family of 3 children I have gotten to experience the good and the bad of not being an only child and for me I would not have it any other way. Please do not think that growing up I wanted to be an only child sometimes but for the most part I didn't really mind it and as an adult I love it. I love knowing that when days are long and I am caring what I think to be the weight of the world on my shoulders I have a "friend" to call that will make it all better.

Siblings are special "Friends" that you will never be able to replace in good times and in bad times. They are the friends that know you at your worst and still will defend you right or wrong. They are the people you can call anytime day or night just to say hi and will engage you in conversation. These are the people that know just what to say or do for you when you feel like no one understands. And most important these are the people that when they say "Everything is going to be alright" you really believe them.

I do understand the value of siblings and I do think that if given the chance every child should have one. With that being said I do have the ability to have another child but I'm not sure that is what I want to do. My question is by not having another child am I taking something great away from my daughter that is irreplaceable or are their many of only child's that have been "OK" and much happier being an only child.

The answer is still missing.

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